Whether you are married for just a month or for a decade, you often take your spouse for granted. Courtesy, gratitude, and care for each other wears off. The same person whom, once upon a time, you would thank for little things, now feels unappreciated by you for all that they do for you everyday.
What we fail to realise is that expressing gratitude benefits both partners in the relationship—the recipient and the giver. When you give appreciation, you often receive even more in return.
One researcher found on days when spouses felt more gratitude toward their partner, they felt more attached to him or her and more pleased even the following day.
Thank your spouse because they care, not because it’s their job.
When your spouse helps with a chore, whether it’s doing dishes, taking out garbage, feeding the baby, or doing groceries, don’t think it’s their job. Moreover, don’t take their work for granted just because you do your share of chores also. Appreciate the care and thoughtfulness that your husband or wife invests in this day-to-day grunt work.
Tell them why you appreciate their act of kindness.
Your spouse would be delighted to know why you are grateful. Moreover, specifying what makes you thankful shows you are sincere in your appreciation. Say: “Thank you for cleaning the snow. It gave me some time to relax!” or “It was nice of you to take kids to play outside as I was able to work on my assignment in peace.”
So on those days (and nights!) when you might not feel warm and fuzzy toward your husband, try to find at least a few reasons to be appreciative of him. And when you’ve run out of reasons, look at our list:
- He’s a human jungle gym for the kids.
- He wants the best for our kids.
- He helps with the kids at bedtime.
- He’s passionate about our family.
- He’s a good leader.
- He’s not a whiner.
- I can trust his judgment.
- He does the right thing, even when he doesn’t want to.
- He tries to please me.
- He’s organised.
- He’s inventive.
- He loves to get his hands dirty.
- He’s adventurous.
- He’s dependable.
- He takes command.
- He can still sweet talk me.
- He’s a saver.
- He’s a spender.
- He rarely buys things for himself.
- He’s disciplined.
- He doesn’t swear.
- He doesn’t swear that much.
- He doesn’t swear in front of the children.
- He can fix anything.
- He knows when to call a repairman.
- He stays calm in hairy situations.
- He volunteers to change diapers.
- He can change a diaper.
- He’ll buy the diapers.
- He marvels at our children.
- He asks my opinion.
- He’s committed to our marriage.
- He’s realistic.
- He surprises me with flowers and gifts.
- He compliments me.
- He’s a good guy.
- He’s consistent.
- He helps clear the table.
- He thanks me at the end of most meals.
- He has simple tastes.
- I’m still attracted to him.
- He has a sweet smile.
- He doesn’t make excuses.
- He knows me.
- He chose me.
- He’s a great bug killer!
- He’ll help with laundry.
- He touches me in all the right ways and in all the right places.
- He wants to be a good man.
- He values my job as a wife and mother.
- He is encouraging to our kids.
- He’s silly for our children.
- His eyes don’t stray.
- He doesn’t step out on me.
- He doesn’t drink too much.
- He doesn’t do drugs.
- He gets what’s important in life.
- He would do anything to keep me smiling.
- He would lay down his life for us.
- His arms are protective.
- He keeps our cars spotless.
Happy World Husband Day!