Do you know someone who is grieving after losing someone that meant something to them? Having no words to comfort them? We’ve got you covered with how to support someone who is grieving.
It’s difficult to find the words to say to someone when they’re grieving. You may have gone through a loss yourself but that doesn’t necessarily mean that what you felt was anything compared to what they are going through. They might experience painful emotions, including depression, anger, guilt, and profound sadness. Often, they also feel isolated and alone in their grief, since the intense pain and difficult emotions can make people uncomfortable about offering support.
You might not know what to say or how to say the things you’d like to. You might be scared to say the wrong thing and upset them. But, don’t let that stop you from reaching out and supporting the person.
- Understand that grieving is a process
There is no method on how to grief. No formula or pattern. Grief knows no timestamp. Expect emotional rollercoasters, with unpredictable highs, lows, and setbacks. Avoid telling them what to do during this process to “get over” the grief.
- Know what to say
This one might sound completely absurd but it is actually very simple. Listen and then reply. As grief is unconventional the person may need a shoulder to cry on, on another day they may want to vent, or sit in silence, or share memories. Let them know you are available to listen. Allow them to talk and tell you. Ask them how they feel, but don’t be too nosy.
- Offer practical assistance
It might be quite difficult for some people grieving, to ask for help. They might feel guilty about receiving so much attention, fear being a burden to others, or simply be too depressed to reach out. Offer whatever you need to but don’t go completely out of your way. For example, ask if they’ll like to indulge in your chicken curry that you are currently making.
- Be a part of the support system
Long after the funeral your loved one will still grief. Continue your support over the long haul. Looks and can deceiving. The person grieving may act or sound like they are okay but they might not necessarily be. Make an effort on the special days. Being without the deceased can be rough.
- Watch out for signs of depression
Sure the griever will be feeling depressed and quite disconnected to family and friends. That is normal but if that sort of behavior continues, maybe you should refer them to a professional.
Grieving is unconventional and helping someone that means a lot to you through their process is noble. Help them move forward with grief.