A global pandemic is scary and you or your other half might understandably be stressed about it, which could cause more tension. So if it feels like the fights are becoming more frequent, organise some fun activities to bond with your partner during this time. ‘It’s important to keep the romance alive,’ ‘Try switching off the TV and enjoying some romantic activities – take turns to cook dinner for one another, play card games, take an online class together – the list is endless. Just remember that it is completely normal to have disagreements. What’s abnormal, is to be permanently locked in one space together, so it doesn’t mean that you’re not doing well if you’re having an argument every now and then.
At first, self-isolation might have sounded like a dreamy scenario to lounge with your partner 24/7, have dinner together every night and spice things up. But… that couldn’t last forever. Now his every breath bothers you (did he always breathe this loudly?) and you can’t stand how she constantly says ‘let’s circle back’ during work Zoom chats. Whether you were already living with your partner when this started or decided to move in together as a result of the coronavirus pandemic, it’s natural to feel as if your other half has morphed from a lovely distraction to an annoyance.
But don’t let this time ruin your relationship, because coronavirus won’t last forever – here’s how to make sure your love does.
‘Being cooped up inside for long periods of time would put a strain on the strongest of relationships. The first is to set the relationship up for success. To keep your relationship healthy, implement a structure to your day – and don’t be afraid to ask for some space as and when you need it. Keep the rhythm of your week individually and as a couple. Claim your space. Needing space is not a rejection. Decide that you are going to cut each other some slack. Focusing on the small irritations will wear the relationship thin. This is not the time to get irritated about how the dishwasher gets packed.
Obviously it’s hard to get away from each other during self-isolation, but there are ways around it. You are team players on the same team. Be respectful and decide to listen to your partner and not interrupt. If your partner leaves the room in the middle of an argument, don’t follow. It is their way of trying to cool off. Give them space and suggest you talk about it later when you have both calmed down.
Try and take some deep breaths, meditate and distract yourself in the moment. This will pass. Give it some time; after all, you’ve got a brand new roommate and he, she or they are bound to have some annoying habits. As do you.